{"id":25927,"date":"2020-11-19T12:59:30","date_gmt":"2020-11-19T18:59:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/corevalues.com\/?p=25927"},"modified":"2020-11-19T12:59:30","modified_gmt":"2020-11-19T18:59:30","slug":"how-to-resolve-conflict","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/corevalues.com\/dev\/2020\/11\/19\/how-to-resolve-conflict\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Resolve Conflict"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/corevalues.com\/conflict-resolution\/how-to-resolve-conflict\/attachment\/fighters\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-25930\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-image-25930 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/corevalues.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Fighters-724x1024.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"424\" \/><\/a>To better grasp how to resolve conflict, let\u2019s head to XYZ Company, a manufacturing company with 80 employees.<\/p>\n<h4>Will Kirk and Andy learn how to resolve conflict?<\/h4>\n<p>Kirk, who has been with XYZ for 20 years, is a senior factory manager. He oversees the operations floor, supervises factory workers, and ensures that the factory runs smoothly.\u00a0 Andy, on the other hand, is the head of sales and marketing.\u00a0 He pushes XYZ\u2019s products into the market and gives his yearly, monthly, and daily projections to Kirk, who then projects raw materials requirements and submits the same to the purchasing department.<\/p>\n<p>Kirk and Andy are the old-timers in XYZ. Both are jovial but hardly get along in the workplace.\u00a0 You see, Andy\u2019s goal is to sell as much as possible and he thinks that the production department (Kirk\u2019s kingdom), should keep up.\u00a0 But then Kirk is inclined to take things slow because he\u2019s very detailed and wants to produce high-quality output with as little to zero spoilage, rejects, and scraps. Voila! Conflict.<\/p>\n<h4>Will Stanley and Jim learn how to resolve conflict?<\/h4>\n<p>On the opposite wing is the customer service department.\u00a0 While most of their services have already been outsourced overseas, Stanley and Jim head the 10-person team for domestic distributors.\u00a0 Their main task is logistics, but what they do daily is make sure that the supply chain (from raw materials to production to distributor to retail outlets) runs efficiently.\u00a0 A tall order.<\/p>\n<p>Stanley and Jim are extremely good at what they do.\u00a0 In fact, one manager quipped that they \u201cmake dreams come true\u201d because they get things done right and quick, all the time. However, while their stakeholders (distributors, employees, and other stakeholders) respect them, Stanley and Jim are constantly at each other\u2019s throats simply because their managerial styles differ.<\/p>\n<p>Stanley is the proverbial, harsh schoolmarm who adheres to rules no matter how unreasonable, while Jim is your typical neighborhood sweetheart who everyone wants to befriend.\u00a0 Both are great at what they do and both get the job done.\u00a0 But Stanley feels Jim doesn\u2019t take things seriously.\u00a0 Jim, on the other hand, thinks that he has to \u201cclean up and PR\u201d after Stanley since everyone (clients included) is scared of him.\u00a0 As a result, everyone feels the tension in the office.\u00a0 Something as trivial can escalate into a verbal brawl between the two.<\/p>\n<h4>The types of conflict<\/h4>\n<p>There are two types of conflict \u2013 DIRECT and LATENT.<\/p>\n<p>Direct conflict happens when there is a clear difference in opinion.\u00a0 This may happen when a person\u2019s point of view is different from someone else\u2019s or when one\u2019s needs are at odds with another.\u00a0 (Kirk and Andy).<\/p>\n<p>The second type, latent conflict, involves situations where bad feelings develop over time creating a block to productivity and relationships.\u00a0 This kind of conflict happens for several reasons.\u00a0 It may be because someone didn\u2019t handle a situation well, or a team member lacks a skill set, or in this case, personality differences. (Stanley and Jim)<\/p>\n<p>Nobody wants conflict. Believe it or not, even war\u00a0 mongers don\u2019t like it.\u00a0 It bruises egos and burns bridges, and can negatively impact morale in the workplace.\u00a0 At some point, everyone avoids conflict at work.\u00a0 Reasons can always be classified under the following:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>It\u2019s simply too risky<\/strong> \u2013 too much political risk that could damage a project, a proposal, or even a career.<\/li>\n<li><strong>It\u2019s too personal<\/strong> \u2013 people feel that the issue isn\u2019t work-related so they simply let it go and lick their wounds in private.<\/li>\n<li><strong>It\u2019s just not worth the hassle<\/strong> \u2013 because it\u2019s simply too hard and unpleasant. It could also be because the person lacks confidence or control to manage the situation.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As you may have experienced so yourself in your workplace, the inclination to avoid conflict is high when the conflict is latent.\u00a0 On the other hand, direct conflicts can easily erupt into an open situation.<\/p>\n<h4>Can these types of conflicts be resolved?<\/h4>\n<p>Absolutely!\u00a0 In my 30 years as a collaborative work culture consultant for group dynamics and organization development, I have yet to come across an organization with zero conflict.\u00a0 Conflict fluctuates in workplace relationships.\u00a0 And to be candid, I look forward to seeing conflict because it indicates the potential for growth.\u00a0 If I see no conflict during change in an organization, I\u2019d suspect the company to be dead or dying!<\/p>\n<p>When people work together, the emotional exchange of ideas and insights is a natural occurrence.\u00a0 But at the end of the tunnel, employees and members at every level must continue working despite the doubts and conflicts.\u00a0 While some conflicts may resolve through short dialogues and putting group behavior norms in order, other situations may need more work.\u00a0 They require effort, a genuine willingness to reevaluate the issue, and an authentic commitment to working things out in the long term (with both parties committed to the outcome).<\/p>\n<p>Conflict resolution is easily a favorite module in my TIGERS Genuineness Communicator course.\u00a0 If this is something you feel could help your workplace, find out more <a href=\"https:\/\/learn.corevalues.com\/courses\/genuineness\">HERE<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h4>What does it take to settle conflict effectively?<\/h4>\n<p><strong>Rule #1:\u00a0 You gotta be a tiger\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I say this in jest with a straight-face \u2026 because conflict resolution is not for the faint hearted.\u00a0 A good conflict handler must have:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Courage \u2013 The process of resolving conflict often involves misinterpretation and hurt feelings.\u00a0 It takes courage to be calm and deliberate.<\/li>\n<li>THE ABILITY TO THINK QUICKLY &#8211;\u00a0 Being prepared is half the battle.\u00a0 But being prepared also means anticipating that your resolution may not pan out as you expect.<\/li>\n<li>THE ABILITY TO BALANCE INTERESTS \u2013 No matter how offensive the other side is, a good conflict handler must care about the other person and his\/her point of view while looking after his\/her own needs.<\/li>\n<li>Patience \u2013 In many conflict scenarios, one must adopt the mind-set of temporary ambiguity. This means that one party (or both) may have to work with disagreement until an acceptable solution is arrived at.\u00a0 It may be resolved it your favor.\u00a0 But it may also be resolved otherwise.\u00a0 In such case, a good conflict handler must also be able to\u2026<\/li>\n<li>COMPROMISE \u2013 The conflict may be resolved\u2026 but not in your favor.\u00a0 If so, you must be willing to compromise and accept the solution.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Rule #2:\u00a0 Know when to surrender and when to fight<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We all want to hold our ground. But ask yourself, is it worth it?\u00a0 An easy way to avoid conflict is to evaluate how much interest you have in the outcome versus that of the other party.\u00a0 Know where you are in this table.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/corevalues.com\/conflict-resolution\/how-to-resolve-conflict\/attachment\/conflict-diagram\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-25928\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-full wp-image-25928 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/corevalues.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/conflict-diagram.png\" alt=\"How to resolve conflict\" width=\"960\" height=\"720\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Rule #3:\u00a0 \u00a0It\u2019s all about balance.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It all comes down to squaring out being \u201ccooperative\u201d versus \u201cadvocating\u201d for your cause.\u00a0 Strike a balance between being passive and aggressive.\u00a0 The challenge is to find middle ground.\u00a0 Words play a huge role. For instance:<\/p>\n<p>Passive phrases sound like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Whatever<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Doesn\u2019t matter <\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>Its ok\u2026 whatever is ok<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Aggressive phrases sound like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>What\u2019s wrong with you?<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>You always \u2026<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>You hardly\/never \u2026<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>I want this from you &#8211; OR ELSE!<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Assertive phrases sound like:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>This doesn\u2019t seem to work for both of us. It\u2019s not working for me because \u2026 and its not working for you because\u2026 What works for me is this\u2026 What would work for you?<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>The next time something like this comes up, can we agree to continue\u00a0 by letting each other know we are tired and need reschedule\u00a0the conversation for the next day \u2026?<\/em><\/li>\n<li><em>These are (established facts and numbers) we are getting. You mentioned that \u2026 but what we need is \u2026\u00a0 Let\u2019s see if we can come up with a workable solution.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Now take a minute to think through all the misunderstandings you have had with others over the past six months.\u00a0 How were you part of the conflict? What could you have done better?<\/p>\n<p>Bottom line &#8211; it takes two to tango. Achieving a good collaborative understanding and way forward is a lovely dance if you are willing to learn the steps.<\/p>\n<h4>Care to dig deeper into the conversation of how to resolve conflict?<\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/learn.corevalues.com\/courses\/tigers-among-us-book-club-kit\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">TIGERS Among Us Book Club<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/corevalues.com\/how-to-build-a-successful-workculture\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">White Paper &#8211; How to Build a Principled and Collaborative Work Culture<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/learn.corevalues.com\/courses\/genuineness\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">TIGERS Genuineness Micro Training<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong><em>(Part 1 of 3 &#8212; To be continued:\u00a0 How to Resolve Conflict Part 2 of 3.\u00a0 Stay tuned!)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Copyright TIGERS Success Series, Inc. By Dianne Crampton<\/p>\n<h4>About TIGERS Success Series<\/h4>\n<p>TIGERS provides a comprehensive, multi-pronged and robust system for improving your workforce behavior, work culture, profitability and project management and team leadership success. 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We also license and certify elite internal and external consultants and project managers to use our resources for similar outcomes.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>To better grasp how to resolve conflict, let\u2019s head to XYZ Company, a manufacturing company with 80 employees. Will Kirk and Andy learn how to resolve conflict? Kirk, who has been with XYZ for 20 years, is a senior factory manager. 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